“It Feels Like Winning the Lottery”: How Practical Support Helped One Nan Care for Her Granddaughter

22nd August 2025

Not every act of care begins with grand gestures. Sometimes, it’s about a chair. 

For Irene (name changed), 57, looking after her 14-year-old granddaughter Mollie (name changed) came with more than the usual family challenges. Mollie, diagnosed with ASD, had moved in with her nan after ongoing arguments with her mum, sparked by a long-strained relationship. She’d been out of school, under the attention of the youth justice team following an assault incident, and withdrawn from in-person engagement—often staying up through the night and sleeping all day. 

Professionals noted her reluctance to work with support services, and her Nan expressed concern about online safety—especially with Mollie building friendships with strangers on the internet. On top of that, Irene herself was living with arthritis and could only use one hand to shower, relying on her son (her carer) to help with household tasks. 

The response was sensitive and measured. A joint visit between the early help worker and social worker uncovered key needs—emotional, practical, and educational. 

With determination and coordination, the family were supported on multiple fronts: 

  • A tutor was arranged through Smart Education to provide face-to-face learning at the local university, offering structure and academic stability for Mollie. 
  • Nan was referred to the NSPCC for online safety advice and signposted to the Cygnet Programme for parenting support around ASD (though she was still awaiting a place at closure). 
  • Most tangibly, support came through a successful application to the Gateway Fund, securing a shower chair that gave Irene greater independence and comfort. She described it as feeling like “winning the lottery”. 

Perhaps most importantly, a sense of future is beginning to form. The family continues working with the Bridging Team to improve relationships, and there’s a commitment from both Birmingham and Walsall services to build a plan around Mollie’s preferred living arrangement. 

This is a story of layered support—where small wins build a stronger future. The road ahead still needs nurturing, particularly in healing family dynamics. But as Irene said, even the smallest bit of help can feel like a windfall when you’re carrying so much. 

🔹 SIDE BOX: Five Key Challenges 

  • School exclusion 
  • Family conflict 
  • ASD support gaps 
  • Online safety risks 
  • Carer health needs 

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